Monday, September 3, 2012

The Deployment Blues

"Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord they God is with thee withersoever thou goest. Joshua 1:9
One thing I LOVE about my blog is, I can pretty much "vent" and not get people's panties in a wad like you do if you post on Facebook. I am trying to be more cautious what I do post on Facebook as far as that goes. MOST of what I say is a general statement, but some people take it to heart. Anyway, enough about Facebook. MOST if not all military wives who have been through deployments, and its hard finding one nowadays that hasn't, will tell you that you have your really good days and your really bad days. Your really good days are really good, good mood, all smiles, feel good about everything, feel like you got this. Then you have your bad days which for me are few, but nonetheless there. Those days, I HATE! You feel helpless, like you have been abandoned, lonely, and depressed sad. It is those days when I kind word from your husband or best friend goes a long way.

I will say this. I AM NOT one of those wives that need to be "babysat" while hubby is gone. I am 34 years old with 2 girls. HOWEVER, not everyone deals with things the same way. I had someone say on facebook a while back that people needed to put their big girl panties on and quit "whining" when you don't hear from your husband or quit "bitching", hey that is a quote, because you have to cut your own grass. Let me tell you something. If I wanna "whine" as they put it to a good friend then that is what I am gonna do. End of story. Am I gonna expect someone to do things for me? HECK NO. But what people, me included, need to realize is, not everyone deals with things the same way you do. Ya know? And you don't always know what else that person has had to deal with on top of the deployment.. Now, I know there is a difference between acting like a big baby and venting. I KNOW that. Now that person that posted that was making a reference to several different people as she put it. But from experience, and I am still learning this, you don't need to be dogging other people on Facebook or twitter or anywhere else. If you have something to say to them you need to say it to their face or in a PM. They way I deal with stress is to let it all out. I need to tell someone! I feel better afterwards.

Now as you may have noticed, this is a down day for me. I am not looking for pitty, honestly I'm not. It just helps to get it out. Again, that is how I deal with it.

I hate that my husband is thousands of miles away in a combat zone. I wish I could just go to him and get a big hug, but I can't right now. I hate it. but I know I can deal with it. I know after a good cry and a good conversation with my husband I am better in the end. I know God does not give us more than we can handle and I love and respect my husband for what he is doing. He is doing his part to keep me and his girls safe.

Tomorrow is another day and honestly without, God, family, and my close friends (in that order) I couldn't do this.

I hope everyone has a very safe and happy Labor Day. Enjoy your families and thank a man or woman in uniform today if you see one.

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1 comment:

William Smith said...

thank you for your heart and for your honesty. I trust that he came back safely? God bless you, your husband and your girls.